1. Myth: Rapists are healthy, lusty
young men "sowing wild oats." Rape is a crime of
Rape is always a sign of weakness, indicating a need to exert
power and control over someone else. Rape is not an expression
of sexual desire, but is an act of sexual violence. It's about
the desire for power and domination. Rapists purposely use
forced sex to humiliate and degrade victims. Rapists can be
of any age.
2. Myth: Women really want to be
raped. After the initial shock, they enjoy being sexual with
a "powerful" man. Some women act seductive and alluring
to provoke rapists.
Being raped is universally traumatic, and one of the worst
events that a person can experience. No one wants to be raped.
Rapists are usually desperate, angry, and insecure men. Most
rapists select their victims because they are available or
vulnerable (not because of the way they dress).
3. Myth: Rapists rape attractive
women who are drunk in bars.
Rapists rape anyone anywhere. Most rapes occur in the victim's
4. Myth: Infants, young boys and
men are never sexually assaulted.
Victims of sexual abuse range from newborn to the elderly,
including both males and females of all ages, and all levels
of society and lifestyles.
5. Myth: Rapes occur in the summer
when people are wearing fewer clothes.
Rapes occur every time of day and night, summer, fall, winter,
6. Myth: Rapists are mostly accused
falsely by women or girls who went along and regretted it
Rapists blame the victim to avoid taking responsibility for
their crimes. Some victims may comply with the rapist's demands
because they are in fear for their lives. Compliance is not
7. Myth: If a person was really
abused, then he/she would report is right away.
Many victims of sexual abuse are too frightened or embarrassed
to tell someone.
8. Myth: Rapists are just men who
were being sexual with a woman. But after the woman turned
him on, she wanted to stop. She deserved what she got.
Appropriate sex stops if and when either partner becomes uncomfortable
with what is happening. Everyone has the right to stop sex
at any point. No one deserves to have his or her body violated.
No one deserves to be raped.
9. Myth: A woman can stop a rape
if she really wants to.
Some women do stop rapes by resisting, running, using self-defense
skills, or figuring out how to get help or get away. Most
victims are afraid of being killed or maimed during a rape.
Rapists use weapons, violence, and threats to control their
victims. Rapists are also usually larger and stronger. Rapists
are always responsible for their actions. Rape will stop when
rapists stop raping. Victims cannot stop rape.
10. Myth: You cannot rape your
Every person has a right to say no to sex and to have their
statement respected without fear of harm. Marrying someone
does not give you rights to her body. Having sex with someone
when she does not want it is not love or lust. It is violence.